10 Things You Can Do For Your Mom

Assalamualaikum Brothers and Sisters! 

Often, moms do virtually all of the giving and very little, if any, of the taking from their families. They may not say it, but most of them want to be appreciated in small ways. You don't have to buy them a car or a house (you could do that too), but it's the small things that count with mom.

Here are some ideas of how you can let mom know that all of her giving has and continues to be appreciated.

1. Give mom a vacation

Don't think Hawaii. Think of a day away from the kitchen. Or the home. Give her a vacation from the home where for her, most of the seemingly endless housework is done daily. Or, if she doesn't want that, start doing your share around the house. Maybe you could start giving her one day of the week off, when she does no cooking or household chores. Remember, fathers and husbands work hard at the office, but they get a two-day weekend in most cases. Moms usually don't even get a full day off. And if they are also working outside, it's like two full time jobs.

2. Let's hear her life story: a mom's circle

She may have read you bedtime stories when you were small, but now it's time for her to tell you a different story-about herself. Make a mom's circle at home in which you ask her to tell her life story. Mom's circle may actually turn into a project: one family member could write this up into a report, another could make a story book out of it and a third could video/audio record it. A mom's circle may become an ongoing family tradition.

3. Try beating mom's cooking

While most moms ask their kids what they want to eat, turn the tables around and do the same for her. Is there special food your mom likes? Buy or prepare that food for her (if you are not the best of cooks, maybe it's safer to just buy it).

4. Is your mom in a nursing home

If your mom is in a nursing home, why not plan to bring her home for a weekend visit to stay with you. Even better, why not make this a weekly, or twice a month set up, so you can spend more time with her and she can be around those who really love her more often? Of course the ultimate gift will be if you can liberate her from that nursing home so she can stay in her room in your own home.

5. Arrange a mammogram for her

Every three minutes, a woman in America is diagnosed with breast cancer. That woman could be your mom.

A woman's chances of developing breast cancer increases with age. The National Cancer Institute recommends women age 40 and over be screened with mammography every one to two years. It also advises that women at higher risk of breast cancer get medical advice before they are 40 about when to begin screening and about the frequency of their screening. Do this for your mom, so you can see her spend the rest of her life in good health, Insha Allah (if God wills).

6. Is your mom a bookworm?

If so, buy a small cabinet and buy all of the books you can afford. Then take it to her home and set it up for her.

7. If your mom is a non-Muslim

If your mom is a non-Muslim, try fasting for a day (Nafil or extra fasting), and keep thinking and praying for her. Ask Allah that He guides her and ask Him what you can do to help her understand her own Creator.

8. If your relationship has not been the best with your Mom

If your relationship with your mom has not been the best, sit down in front of a year-long calendar or planner and mark down dates and things which you can plan to improve this relationship. Start off by making a formal first appointment. Then pick dates on which you can keep contact with her and build your relationship on a regular basis.

9. If mom is not alive

If your mom is not alive, visit her relatives and friends and ask what you can do for them. Consider these two Hadiths (sayings of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him):

1. The Messenger of Allah said: When a person dies, his actions come to an end, except for three things: a continuing Sadaqa (charity), knowledge from which benefit is still being derived, and a righteous child who prays for her or him (translated meaning from Muslim).
2. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said:
Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).10. Pick up her feet and spread the word

The Prophet Muhammad said: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). Ask your mom to lift her feet, so you can locate where Jannah is. Then tell others about your discovery by sharing what Islam has to say about moms and their importance in our lives.

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Assalamualaikum. Well, sedang ana ber'fb' and i just posted my status. Suddenly, hamba Allah respond t my status n gave dis. Sentap abis +_____+

".....Isu memendam perasaan.

Pada saya, bila kita sudah suka kepada seseorang, pertamanya yang kita perlu lakukan adalah menyelidik siapakah yang kita suka itu. Bagaimana dia. Apakah menyenangkan jiwa kita? Apakah kita senang dengan keadaan keluarganya? Saya sendiri tidak menetapkan apa-apa level dalam hal ini. Pokoknya, kita senang dengan dia, dan kita senang dengan keluarganya.

Keduanya, bila rasa senang dengan itu semua, pergilah kepada Ibu Bapa kita, dan nyatakan hajat kita itu. Berbincanglah dengan Ibu Bapa akan baik buruk tindakan kita, akan keadaan diri dan kemampuan kita. Pandangan Ibu Bapa sangat penting bagi mengimbangi otak dan jiwa kita yang disapa 'cinta'. Kadangkala, orang yang disapa cinta ini, 'mereng' sikit pertimbangannya. Kadangkala.

Ketiganya, selepas rasa yakin, pergilah usahakan merisiknya dengan jalan yang baik untuk mengetahui sudah berpunya atau belum. Sekiranya belum, lamarlah dengan jalan yang baik. Jika ditolak, boleh tanya kenapa. Kalau kekurangan yang boleh diperbaiki, boleh diusahakan, maka berusahalah memperbaikinya. Kalau kerana benda yang tidak boleh diubah seperti kerana kita terlalu tinggi, kulit terlalu cerah dan sebagainya, tinggalkan sahaja orang sebegitu., dan carilah yang lain.

Keempatnya, sekiranya diterima, maka berusahalah mencapai 'mampu' untuk berkahwin. Pertunangan tidak perlu terlalu lama. Namun ini terpulang kepada situasi dan keadaan masing-masing. Apa-apa pun, saya tegaskan di sini, dalam sesi pertunangan itu, selain mengambil peluang berta'aruf, fokuskanlah kepada 'usaha untuk mencapai mampu' dengan peningkatan peribadi, peningkatan ilmu, peningkatan kekuatan untuk mencari sara hidup, dan sebagainya.

Ta'aruf itu biasa-biasa sahaja. Rilek-rilek sahaja. Lepas kahwin boleh sambung panjang. Tetapi 'kemampuan', itu bukan benda yang mudah. Kena mula awal, kena serius usaha capai. Ini yang ramai remaja malas nak kisah. Kisahnya perasaan sahaja, syok berhubungan dengan pasangan sahaja. Pada-pada la. Fikir mana yang lebih utama!

Pada saya, begitulah.
Ringkasnya, saya akan cakap: "Kalau suka, beritahulah. Buat apa pendam."
Tetapi orang melayu ni banyak songeh. Bila cakap begitu, budak-budak sekolah rendah pun rasa dia patut bagitahu dekat kawan darjah limia yang dia suka. Orang-orang tua pun sampai cakap pada saya: "Habis, yang budak tingkatan tiga pun kena luah la?" Adoi...

So kenalah saya karang status panjang ini.

Konklusinya, bila dah suka, beritahulah. Buat apa pendam. Tetapi fikir-fikir jugalah keadaan diri. Perkara ini, jalankanlah dalam keadaan berjaga-jagalah dan berhati-hati.

Masa dan perancangan, adalah antara yang memainkan peranan penting di dalam hal ini.

Selain niat dan matlamat yang jelas, dalam mencintai seseorang.
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Geng-geng yang sokong pendam,
dipersilakan menanti 'orang yang tertulis di lauh mahfudz' untuk anda.
Saya tidak kisah pun.

Ini hanya khas untuk yang rasa tak logik laci boleh terbuka sendiri tanpa usaha, dan tahu bahawa Allah dan Rasulullah SAW sendiri mengisyaratkan 'usaha dan ikhtiar' dalam pemilihan pasangan.

Sekian.
^^

Enough

Almost a month i dont write anything here. been bz i guess. well, so many things happened just in a FLASH! iman berkurang iman bertambah. semakin hari semakin berkurang iman dalam diri ini. mungkin kerana hati semakin gelap? lalai dalam ibadah atau mungkin leka? Ya Rahman. Bantulah aku. Baru baru ini ana seakan tersedar dari lamunan. Kisah fitnah itu benar benar membari pengajaran kepada ana untuk lebih berhati hati dalam pergaulan seharian.

Ya Allah, begitu berat rasa hati ini tatkala mendengar cerita itu. Sakit sekali. Allah sedang berbicara denganku. Pada ketika itu juga, aku berasa sangat dekat dengan Sang Pencipta. Ana akui, ana seorang yang mesra tetapi tidak sangka mesra itu sudah di salah anggap oleh segelintir mereka yang tidak faham. Atau mungkin tersalah faham? Kali ini memang ana akan lebih berhati hati. Dan kerana itu juga, ana putuskan untuk dia tidak menunggu ana lagi. Ana sudah ada perancangan sendiri. Sebaik baik perancang adalah Allah, tetapi tidak salah bukan untuk kita merancang?

Maafkan ana kerana melukai kalian. Ana cuma insan biasa yang cuma bisa memilih hanya seorang. Ya, seorang. Tetapi bukan awak. Orang lain.

being nice is a good thing. but dont be too nice. people will see it as something else and i will end up in trouble

yes, that is what happen to me now. huhu :( so what's best i can do is to tell the truth to them. Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making someone smile. No hiding. I am being honest. Truthfully honest. Please understand me. My situation. Enough is enough. Ya Allah, apa di kerepak ana tok? Fine, may not be in a gud mood now. Muhasabah diri! Gambatte ne!

BELAJAR DARI KESILAPAN. ALLAH TEGUR DIRECT. SO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY!